嗯，我要好好珍惜生命好好生活，不然努力就没有意义了。

看到一篇好文章，贴在这里分享一下，以后翻看的时候也可以对比一下

Where Will You Be in Five Years?

Most people have been asked that perennial, and somewhat annoying, question: "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Of course it is asked most often in a job interview, but it may also come up in a conversation at a networking event or a cocktail party. Knowing and communicating your career goals is challenging for even the most ambitious and focused person. Can you really know what job you'll be doing, or even want to be doing, in five years?

What the Experts Say
In today's work world, careers take numerous twists and turns and the future is often murky. "Five years, in today's environment, is very hard to predict. Most businesses don't even know what's going to be required in two or three years," says Joseph Weintraub, a professor of management and organizational behavior at Babson College and co-author of the book, The Coaching Manager: Developing Top Talent in Business. While it may be difficult to give a direct and honest response to this question, Weintraub and Timothy Butler, a senior fellow and the director of Career Development Programs at Harvard Business School, agree that you need to be prepared to answer it. And you need to treat any conversation like an interview. "Every person you talk to or meet is a potential contact, now or in the future," says Weintraub.

The first step is knowing the answer for yourself. "It's a very profound question. At the heart of it is 'where does meaning reside for me?'" says Butler. You have to clarify for yourself what you aspire to do with your career before you can communicate it confidently to others.

Be introspective
Figuring out the answer to this question is not an easy task. "The real issue is to do your homework. If you're thinking this through in the moment, you're in trouble," says Butler. In his book Getting Unstuck: A Guide to Discovering Your Next Career Path, Butler cautions that you need to be prepared to do some serious introspection and consider parts of your life that you may not regularly think about. "It starts with a reflection on what you are good at and what you are not good at," says Weintraub. Far too many people spend time doing things they are not suited for or enjoy. Weintraub suggests you ask yourself three questions:

What are my values?
What are my goals?
What am I willing to do to get there?
This type of contemplation can help you set a professional vision for the next five years. The challenge is then to articulate that vision in various situations: a meeting with your manager, a networking chat, or a job interview.

If you don't know, admit it
Even the deepest soul-searching may not yield a definitive plan for you. There are many moving parts in people's career decisions — family, the economy, finances — and you may simply not know what the next five years holds. Some worry that without a polished answer they will appear directionless. This may be true in some situations. "For some people, if you don't have the ambition, you're not taken seriously," says Weintraub. But you shouldn't fake it or make up an answer to satisfy your audience. This can be especially dangerous in a job interview. Saying you want P&L responsibility in five years when you have no such ambitions may land you the job, but ultimately will you be happy? "Remember the goal is to find the right job, not just a job. You don't want to get it just because you were a good interviewee," says Weintraub.

Know what they're really asking
Butler and Weintraub agree that while the five-year question is not a straightforward one. Butler says that hiring managers rely on it to get at several different pieces of information at once. The interviewer may want to know, Is this person going to be with us in five years? "The cost of turnover is high so one of my biggest concerns as a hiring manager is getting someone who will be around," says Butler. There is another implied question as well: Is the position functionally well-matched for you? The interviewer wants to know if you'll enjoy doing the job. Weintraub points to another possibility: "They are trying to understand someone's goal orientation and aspirational level." In other words, how ambitious are you? Before responding, consider what the asker wants to know.

Focus on learning and development
You run the risk of coming off as arrogant if you answer this question by saying you hope to take on a specific position in the company, especially if the interviewer is currently in that position. Butler suggests you avoid naming a particular role and answer the question in terms of learning and development: What capabilities will you have wanted to build in five years? For example, "I can't say exactly what I'm going to be doing in five years, but I hope to have further developed my skills as a strategist and people manager." This is a safe way to answer regardless of your age or career stage. "You don't want to ever give the impression that you're done learning," says Weintraub.

Reframe the question
Research has shown that it's less important that you answer the exact question and more important that you provide a polished answer. Enter the interview knowing what three things you want the interviewer to know about you. Use every question, not just this one, to get those messages across. You can also shorten the timeframe of the question by saying something like, "I don't know where I'll be in five years, but within a year, I hope to land several high-profile clients." You can also use the opportunity to express what excites you most about the job in question. "In any competitive environment, the job is going to go to someone who is genuinely interested and can articulate their interest," says Butler.

Principles to Remember

Do:

First, do the contemplative work to develop a personal answer to the question
Understand what the interviewer is trying to gather from your response
Shorten the timeframe of the question so you can give a more specific and reasonable reply
Don't:

Make up an answer you don't believe in
Provide a specific position or title; instead focus on what you hope to learn
Feel limited to answering the narrow question asked — broaden it to communicate what you want the hiring manager to know about you

Case Study #1: Know where you thrive
Bob Halsey found out about the opening of associate dean of Babson's undergraduate program the same way everyone else at the school did — through an email announcement. He had been on the faculty as a professor of Accounting for 12 years and recently had taken on the role of chair for that department. Prior to his academic career, he had been in the corporate world, holding a CFO position at a retailing and manufacturing company and working as the vice president and manager of the commercial lending division of a large bank.

The associate dean job appealed to him because it was similar to the positions in which he'd thrived in the corporate world. Reflecting on his years of experience, Bob knew he most enjoyed being in a supporting role, rather than the top gun. While an associate dean position is often seen as a stepping-stone for those who eventually want to become dean, Bob wasn't interested in that. He didn't want to be the center of attention, now or in the future.

Plus everyone at the school loved the current dean, Dennis Hanno, and Bob knew it would be unpalatable for him to talk with the nominating committee about eventually unseating Dennis. When asked about his future plans, Bob was clear: "I said, 'I'm not coming in with any designs on becoming dean. And if Dennis leaves, I will keep the train going until we get a new dean. I have always been a terrific number two. I am the person who can make your number one a success.'" Joe Weintraub, the expert from above and a member of the committee, said it was clear that Bob was passionate about the role, and the committee was impressed with his candor. He said that under other circumstances Bob might have appeared to be lacking aspiration, but in this case his response simply told them he was the right person for the job.

"When people really want a job, they tend to overpromise. I figured it doesn't do me any good to get in under false expectations," says Bob. "My motivation in taking this job was to work alongside and learn from Dennis." He has been serving as associate dean for close to a year now and has found the satisfaction he was looking for.

Case Study #2: Be honest about the future
Three years ago Margaret Quandt was working as an HR generalist at Bristol Myers Squibb when a former colleague who worked at CitiGroup called to ask if she was interested in applying for a generalist job. At the time, Margaret wasn't sure she wanted to continue along the generalist track. She knew she eventually wanted more specialty experience. "I went into HR to be an HR professional, not to be a generalist," she says. But her contact told her there would likely be other more specialized opportunities in the future, so she decided to apply.

During an interview with Brian, the SVP of the division that she would be supporting, he asked her, "Do you want to run HR someday?" Brian was a highly ambitious senior executive; as the SVP of Commercial Payment Solutions, he held full P&L responsibility. Margaret answered, "I don't know." She could see Brian react immediately: "His whole body language changed and he sat back in his chair". She then qualified her response, "Aspirationally yes," she said, "but I also love teaching and research. I'm a young woman in my childbearing years and I've worked with enough women in HR to know that we don't always get to do what we aspire to. It's really hard for me at this point in my career to look more than three years out." Brian paused for a long time and then said, "That's one of the most honest answers I've heard." After the interview, Margaret was concerned she might have blown it, but she was happy with her decision to be honest. "I don't lie in interviews," she says.

Margaret got the job and soon after she was hired Brian confessed that he had been concerned about her answer at first. But as he reflected on it, he realized how much sense it made. It showed him that Margaret was both thoughtful and serious about her career. Margaret was the HR generalist to Brian's division for 17 months; then, as she'd hoped, she was promoted to her current, specialized role managing a global leadership development program for high-performing managers.

[毛里 编辑于 2011-04-18 15:11]

保重身体，累了就好好休息一下。“不见五陵豪杰墓， 无花五酒锄作田。”过得快乐，记住达到你心底的目标就行。

哪怕是这样的房子也行的，至少可以安放自己自由的心

是，我大概是个比较保守的人吧，传统观念束缚着我的行为。
而且是有自己的房子是可以按自己的方式来布置的
这才是生活的样子

生活的目的有很多，但是....... ，房子是个目标？

谢谢，想明白了。我先让自己快乐起来吧
在这段消沉的日子里，我把我一直想看却没有看的火影忍者看了一大部分了
看了200多集，之前一直觉得自己喜欢，但是可能怎么也看不完吧
但是一直收藏着，就是期待着有一天能把它们看完
现在做到了，却是在自己最消沉的时候，看来，也有收获吧

哈哈，这就对了，咱这样聪明的人早就应该想明白的，呵呵：）
人，活着不仅仅是为了自己快乐，同时给别人带来快乐也很重要啊~~~

谢谢，非常非常喜欢这张，小时候的红花草，
小时候摘很多，编成一个花环，超喜欢

我活过来了，我要精神饱满的像以前一样的生活
哪怕最后是离开，也要说，我活过啦

生活本来是这种颜色的。非要要用黑白的干嘛？

今天绝对是一个值得纪念的日子，这么多天的乌云密布今天终于有点开窍的迹象了
在这里我写下我30岁时要做的决策，在没有意外重大支出的情况下：
在上海买一套属于自己的房子，不论面积，是否新房
如果买不起，那就逃离上海，开始流浪。

现在的我距离30周岁还有4年零4个月。加油。

会看这个时候的自己，多乐观开朗啊，一箪兄给的评价就看的出来
现在的我要努力努力努力夺回一点快乐

现在已经搬出这里半年了，还真没有提起过，也没有什么感情。

豫园的许愿树，去过几次，从未许愿

翻看我以前写的这些帖子，其实是件挺有意思的事情的
再次去了新天地，这次是一个法国同事来上海，一起去吃了顿饭
当然是我的法国同事买的单，国外的同事总是对我很照顾
让我觉得工作除了是用来养活自己的工具之外，还有点别的意义
我这样的工作，总是在打电话，能见面的机会很少
现在和一个德国同事每周开两次会，星期一和星期五，开会前都会询问下情况
星期一问的是这个周末过得怎么样，星期五问的是这个周末准备做什么
突然间觉得就像老朋友一样，可惜，却没有机会见面
也许哪天不因为工作而联系了，会怀念这样的经历吧

我的确有点好高骛远。

我以前也这样，只是我没有办法一直这样。
张说，人的想法一旦上去了就没有办法下来了
现在的我已经回不到从前的样子了
但是，我还是会要快乐的生活下去的

什么样的活法都很好，只要自己心安理得。
吾心安处是我乡，关键是我没有
我就像一个外来入侵物种一样，如果不能立足就只有被消灭了

是的，随着岁月的流逝，区别会越来越大。
我想尝试各种各样的可能，可是我却输不起，或者说挥霍不起，
哪怕是每个人都平等的时间，我都挥霍不起。
之前的一段心路历程，就像这些鱼一样，拥挤却找不到出口，快要窒息
迫使它们这样的，是罪恶的人类
迫使我这样的，是我自己

这样也幸福，何求？

这样开心的生活着，心情就大不一样了。

话题有些沉重噢，看看这样活着好吗？

无限种路的可能。

[bluejeff 编辑于 2011-04-08 12:58]

昨天晚上，参加了一个类似同学聚会的活动，大家年龄相仿，都曾经和复旦有过交集，不仅限于复旦毕业。多年未见，很是感慨，不见少年的容貌，残留少年的意气。期间有从政的新星，举手投足之间充斥着党的豪迈，我等技术专业者，相比之下真是幼稚。
真不知，这个国家究竟是谁的，目前不是人民的。
让子弹再飞一会。
谈笑间，青春如过眼云烟。

[bluejeff 编辑于 2011-04-08 13:00]

黎明前，我对于政治一点兴趣都没有，还是那句话，不在其位不谋其政。



现在我明白了，青春不管怎么过，都是后悔，人总是会后悔自己没走的那条路
而事实是一个人不可能走上每一条路



谢谢，我一定努力，只是现在对于这个城市，现在的我没有太多的激情了，
以前，周末我早上6点就能起来到处跑到处拍，现在我是一点兴趣都提不起来
我想买个好点的相机，自己也买不起，更加的没有动力了
如果可以的话，我愿意多写写多拍拍的





记得以前有句话说：前面有两条路，可惜我只有一双脚
曾经我以为我特别明白这句话的含义，所以我特别坚定我的方向我的努力
这两个女孩的幸福我不得而知，我只是希望我过的不那么纠结一点
我这破生活，太纠结了，纠结于每一条可能的路



是怒放。

怒放?不错,曾经很喜欢

回家路上，路旁奔驰车慢慢驰过，副驾驶的女孩的笑容还印在车窗上，她幸福么？谁知道。

幸福是什么？是内心的体会，是现实的考量。

青春是什么？是激情，是迷茫，是冲动，是总要落入凡间的精灵，是终究要失去的岁月。

当青春浙行浙远，指缝间也流逝了我的冲动我的梦。

今天联系上一个硕士毕业快一年的女孩，我一直带她实习，交情不错。她在远离家乡的地方工作三年后考研，考到江苏，在上海完成后两年的学业。
毕业的时候我问她打算留在上海么，她说我累了，想找个离家近点的小城市，不要那么辛苦。
在天津找到了工作，离开时说城市落差太大，些许落漠。
今天电话说，她要结婚了。她很幸福。

你好，多愁善感的小姑娘：）
刚刚看了你的一些帖子，感觉你的语言文学天赋很好，汉语英语都不错，你很敏感，也善于视觉表达，如果在摄影方面发展也一定会有出色的表现。
叔叔只是想提醒你自己要有主见。不要被个别“善意地”忽悠把你挟持到几乎山穷水尽的境地而不知。相信你经过自己的“多思”、“发呆”之后，站起来、转身、移步，那柳暗花明一定会出现在你面前的。
困难，当你畏惧它时，它才能左右你。不要怨天尤人，也不能坐享其成，从来就没有什么救世主，一切全靠我们自己！

“今天※※上看不到艾未未，今天，人人都可以成为艾未未。如果你喜欢他，你就像他那样去生活，像他那样去爱亲人，爱朋友，爱孩子，爱小猫小狗，爱那些受苦的人并且为他们说话。无数个你成为了艾未未，中国就不必是马勒隔壁大草原了，你这位草泥马※※可以骄傲地看到，你的后代进化成人——幸福的中国人。”

请看吴吞在云南地震义演所唱歌词：

甘地得到了它，一个印度人杀死了甘地
马丁路德金得到了它，美国人干掉了马丁路德金
曼德拉得到了它，成为南非第一个黑人※※
一个中国人也得到了它，他现在却回不了家
这是一个黑色的玩笑还是一个美丽的陷阱
反正所有的秘密都在公开
谁也不能再把自己藏起来
反正我们有各种各样的理由
解释我们的所作所为
反正我们有各种各样的借口
满足我们的所思所想
下一届的口口口口口奖
会颁发给全中国的每一个人
提高我们的GDP
带动我们的人民内需
反正总有一届的口口口口口奖
将会颁发给全世界的每一个人
每一个公民每一个生命
再也不用害怕有人生活的比他好
每一个动物植物每一个细胞
再也不用害怕有人生活的比他好 每一个充满荷尔蒙的原纸弹 再也不用害怕有人生活的比他好